Sexual Reflexology

Male and Female Energy

It is important to understand the difference between male sexual energy (yang) and female sexual energy (yin). The Taoists understood that men and women are meant to balance, as two opposite halves of a universal whole. This means that we need to respect our differences and understand that it is natural to feel different and to be different. Without this awareness men and women are often at odds with one another. 
   Many of our struggles in relationships come about because we expect each other to be the same. I hear many people complain that their partner does not see things the way they do, or does not do things the way they do. It is important not to fight and struggle with our differences but to make them work in our favor, creating balance and harmony. If we forget this truth we are easily upset and frustrated with the opposite sex. Yet, when we respect this difference, love blossoms like a well nurtured garden. Sexual Reflexology is designed to harmonize these male and female challenges on an energetic level. 
   Sexually, men are like fire, quick to get hot and quick to explode. Women, on the other hand, are like water, heating up slowly and staying hot longer. This is the reason the male Taoists use a variety of techniques to satisfy a women sexually. Women need foreplay, to be caressed tenderly and embraced with passion. This way, the water--the feminine sexual energy--will boil, and energy will be exchanged. Thus, the Taoist saying, “Never sail your boat in a rocky river,” meaning, that the woman needs to be aroused and lubricated before sexual intercourse. 
In cultivating sexual energy, men learn to control ejaculation and achieve a full body orgasm rather than merely a genital orgasm. By learning to transform sperm into Chi, men can become better lovers, more vibrant and youthful, and are able to activate the compassionate energy in the heart. For women, cultivating sexual energy is a way to transform blood into Chi. Transforming sexual energy is directly related to the menstrual cycle. From the Taoist exercises, this transformation leads to an abundance of energy, balanced emotions and internal power. 
Emotionally, women are like fire and men are like water. It is very easy for women to express their emotions, to get excited, to cry and to feel. For men it is more challenging to be in touch with the heart center. This is how men and women balance emotionally and sexually. Women open and heat the emotional center or the heart center in men and men help open or bring the fire into the sexual center for women. The goal of the Taoist practice is to create this harmonious and flowing exchange of energy.
   This is revealed physically by the fact that men project from the sexual center (the penis) and women project from the heart center (the breasts). Projection is the yang or the fire quality of energy. This demonstrates that women are yang emotionally and men are yang sexually. These physical features reveal the energetic and emotional nature of men and women.
Yin and Yang
   The tractor (yang) and the lake (yin) are the energy fields of the man and of the woman. We are talking here about opposites. When the man is hot, the woman is cold. When the woman is hot, the man is cold. So you have a real communication problem. When you’re very hot the person with whom you are trying to communicate is cold. Men and women have different types of energy molecularly. It’s very hard to interact unless you have a clear understanding of your own energy field and how it interacts with the people around you, especially the energy field of the opposite gender. Getting this understanding opens up communication, which is the key to any relationship. 
“The tractor and the lake” exemplifies what I mean by this difference. When you drive a tractor into a lake, you get stuck. And what happens when the tractor tries to fight the lake? It sinks deeper. Who is stronger, the tractor or the lake? Obviously, the lake is stronger. It not only has its own energy, but it also absorbs all of the energy the tractor exerts. Now the tractor is active energy and the lake is passive energy. The lake is the yin energy or the feminine energy and the tractor is the yang or the male energy. 
   The key message in “the tractor and the lake” is the ability of the lake to yield to the tractor; and the way of the Tao is to yield because the Tao is feminine. You find this in every aspect. Every time you want to overcome something you yield to its energy and you use its energy for your own benefit and welfare.

Sexual Reflexology
Activating the Taoist Points of Love

Putting Sexual Reflexology into Practice
Acknowledgments
Introduction
The Universal Tao
The Healing Love Practice
The Importance of Meditation in Sexual Reflexology
Microcosmic Orbit
Directing Sexual Energy
Special Note for Women Readers
Chapter 1 Male and Female Energy
Yin and Yang
Chapter 2 Sexual Energy: A Taoist Perspective
Sexuality, Energy, and Relationships
History of Sexual Reflexology
Chapter 3 Reflexology
Compatibility of the Penis and Vaginal Canal
Ring Muscles
Exercising the Ring Muscles
Chapter 4 Sexual Healing Positions
Eight Sexual Healing Positions for Men
Seven Sexual Healing Positions for Women
Exchange of Energy as a Sexual Healing Prayer
Chapter 5 Sexual Energizing Postures
Hand Positions
Use Eye Movements in Healing Love Postures
Healing Love Couples Energize the Senses
Healing Love Postures for Universal Tao Practices
Energizing Postures with Eight Healing Benefits
Chapter 6 Ejaculation and Menstrual
Cycle Management
Ejaculation Management
Regulating Ejaculation Frequency
Mastering the Techniques of Controlled Contact
Ejaculatory Control Practice
Breathing Exercise
Buttocks Exercise
Warming the Stove (for Men)
Menstrual Cycle Management
Ovary Massage
Breast Massage
Egg Exercises and Vaginal Weight Lifting
Egg Exercise
Vaginal Weight Lifting
Physical Sexercises
Shaking the Testicles and the Breasts
Spiraling Hip and Tailbone (for Men and Women)
Secret Taoist Method of Urination (for Men and Women)
Sun Practice (for Men and Women)
Chapter 7 Sexual Reflexology and Physical Characteristics
Taoist Sexual Terms
Facial Features
Lips
Eyes
Eyebrows
Space between the Eyebrows
Teeth
Jawlines
Cheeks
Ears
Nose
Male Facial Features Summarized
Female Facial Features Summarized
Massaging the Face
Hands and Fingers
Fingers of a Man
Fingers of a Woman
Massaging the Hands
Hair
Neck
Breasts
Buttocks
Female Body
Chapter 8 Compatibility
Compatibility for Life
Lovemaking Energy
Chapter 9 Sexercises
Breathing Sexercises
Deep Abdominal Breathing (for Men and Women)
Energy Breathing (for Men and Women)
Sexercises Massage
Testicle Massage
Tapping the Dragon Pearls (for Men)
Penis Power Stretching
Hot Hands Warm-Up
Vaginal Stretch
Use Visualization to Increase Sexual Energy
Sexual Organs and the Brain
PC Muscle and Milking Exercises
Chi Muscle
PC Chi Muscle Exercises
Testicle Stretching Exercise
Power Milking
Milking and Holding
Chapter 10 Internal Organs and the Five Elements
Kidneys and the Water Element
Female Kidney Energy
Kidney Massage
Massage the Ears
Heart and the Fire Element
Tongue Kung Fu
Massage the Chest to Open the Heart
Lungs and the Metal Element
Massage the Lung Points
Liver and the Wood Element
Massage the Feet
Spleen and the Earth Element
Massage the Abdomen
Chapter 11 Secret Art of the Jade Chamber
Arcane Maid's Original Nine Postures
Mystical Thirty PosturesForeplay
Chapter 12 Romancing the Moon Grotto
Foreplay
Nine Major Love Points
Erotic Massage
Caressing the Moon Grotto
Caressing the Jade Stalk
Love Games
Three Fountains

Afterword
Glossary
Bibliography
Index
About the Authors
The Universal Tao System and Training Center

A student of several Taoist masters, Mantak Chia founded the Healing Tao System in North America in 1979 and developed it worldwide as European Tao Yoga and Universal Healing Tao. He has taught and certified tens of thousands of students and instructors from all over the world and tours the United States annually, giving workshops and lectures. He is the director of the Tao Garden Health Spa and Resort training center in northern Thailand and the author of twenty-five books, including the bestselling The Multi-Orgasmic Man. William U. Wei began his studies with Mantak Chia in the early 1980s and is a Senior Instructor of the Universal Tao who has taught with Mantak Chia in over 30 countries. He is also the author of Living in the Tao.

"Explicit illustrations, insightful text and titillating techniques from 14th-century Chinese texts bring innovative fitness possibilities into the bedchamber."
Nexus, March/April 2004

"With the high incidence of perversion, abuse, and exploitation in our time, it is refreshing to see sexuality being celebrated and brought forward as a healing element."
Claus Sproll, Liliopoh the spirit in life, Issue 37 Vol. 9, Fall 2004

"[Chia] provides a unique opportunity for couples to practice sexual intimacy as an act of healing."
Branches of Light, Spring-Summer-Fall 2005

"Mantak Chia and William U. Wei note early in the book that Daoists regard the use of sexual energy not as a moral but as a health issue. They explore and explain the yin and yang of the sexes that leaves so many confused and dismayed. . . . It goes into great depth about physiological aspects of reflexology, sexual exercise, and general compatability, and details a range of practices and postures that address the health and general well-being of sexual partners."
Reg Little, New Dawn, No. 116, Sep/Oct 2009

SEXUALITY / TAOISM

The Taoists have written and taught on the subject of sexual energy for the last five thousand years, observing that nature is full of creative, life-giving sexual energy. By combining the classic Taoist sexual texts with modern reflexology theory, Mantak Chia, coauthor of The Multi-Orgasmic Man, presents a way for any individual or couple to better understand their sexual energy and to cultivate that energy for health and well being through sexual reflexology.

Reflexology is based on the premise that all our organs have reflex points on other parts of the body. It is most often associated with massage of the hands and feet. Yet the most powerful reflex points are on the sexual organs. Sexual Reflexology shows how to use the sexual reflex points in lovemaking, allowing sexual intercourse to become a form of ecstatic acupressure. In this way the entire body provides the sexual organs with energy and in return the entire body is stimulated with healing energy.

This book demonstrates and discusses a variety of Healing Love practices that cultivate sexual energy in order to bring vitality into one’s life and relationships. The authors describe diagnostic techniques to reveal compatibility between male and female partners and also present specific exercises that correct sexual imbalances and weaknesses. By using the fifteen sexual healing positions, specific health issues can be addressed during lovemaking, such as improving circulation and reducing digestive problems. The authors also present specific hand positions for drawing sexual energy into the brain while performing the Healing Love practices, as well as postures that strengthen the senses and organs, and exercises that enable men and women to maintain their vital essence and enhance the life force in their bodies. They also share postures from the ancient Taoist text The Classic of the Arcane Maid and techniques from the Art of the Bedchamber practiced in fourteenth-century China.

Following the practices presented in Sexual Reflexology will not only strengthen the sexual organs through exercise and massage, it will also enhance sexual pleasure by creating a more vigorous and healthy body that is more responsive to intense emotions and spiritual energy. Sexual reflexology allows sexual energy to provide nourishment for the totality of ourselves--our body, our mind, and our spirit.

A student of several Taoist masters, MANTAK CHIA developed the Universal Tao System in 1979 and has taught tens of thousands of students from all over the world. He tours the United States annually, giving workshops and lectures. He is the director of the Universal Tao Center located in northern Thailand and is the author of twenty-five books on Taoist practices. WILLIAM U. WEI is a senior instructor of the Universal Tao who has taught with Mantak Chia in over thirty countries. He is also the author of Living in the Tao.