Tantric Secrets for Men

Introduction

Imagine having a partner who says that she couldn't possibly have a better lover than you, that she can't wait for you to come home each day.

Imagine being in a relationship that is exciting, sexy and emotionally nurturing; being able to make love as long as you want, as many times as you like, at any age, and knowing absolutely that you can satisfy your partner - not just physically, but on every level of being - body, heart and soul.

Imagine continuing to explore and create together fulfilling and profound lovemaking experiences; continuing to grow and bond with more intimacy, loving feelings and communication. Imagine feeling more pleasure, with deeper, stronger orgasms for you and your partner.

Lovemaking that will bring more love, joy and pleasure into your life is possible.

Held within these pages are secrets and practices that will turn this dream into reality, secrets you will treasure for a lifetime. I have no doubt about it because the secrets I share in this book are not theoretical, they are practices that my wife Diane and I have developed through actual experience of working successfully with thousands of people over many years. I am not suggesting or wanting to suggest that by reading this book everything will be rosy and that you'll have no problems with your partner any more. I've been married for over twenty years and we have three children, I know what difficulties arise! However, I've also invested many years of my life on a full time basis finding out what practices work in different situations and what it takes to sustain love and sexual passion with the same woman over and over again. There is an old proverb, 'Blessed is the man who has found his work and one woman to love'.

This book is for any man of any age who wants to be an extraordinary lover. A man feels ten feet tall when he knows he can satisfy a woman and the skills you learn from this book will give you the expertise to do exactly that!
Much of a man's self-image is tied up with how good he is in bed. Every man wants to be good in bed. For my father's generation that was relatively easy. It was easy to screw; anybody could do it. You just moved in and out until you felt an explosion of energy. That's all there was to it. The only challenge was to find a willing partner.
In the 1960s, during my elder brother's era, everything changed. Men began to realise that their pleasure in sex was magnified when their partners were also experiencing a great amount of pleasure. They realised that in order to be good lovers they needed to warm up their partner with lots of foreplay. Men were challenged to get women to orgasm. However, there wasn't a lot of pressure on them to succeed because throughout the previous two thousand years, women's sexuality had been suppressed. It was common for women to be uncomfortable with their sexuality and to have difficulty reaching orgasm. If it happened, that was great, but if it didn't, it wasn't such a big deal because it was accepted that 'good girls don't do it anyway'. So lovemaking was still mostly about his pleasure.

Today, however, being a good lover is more challenging than it has ever been. Women have moved through a transformation. A woman today doesn't want just sex, she wants great sex, which includes physical and emotional nourishment.

Many men go into lovemaking concerned that they won't be able to meet their partner's needs. I would suggest that what we must do as self-aware men is work with our partners as team-mates in continuing to support and nourish this opening of their sexuality. One of the best ways we can do this is by becoming extraordinary lovers.

I believe that there is a 'new man' in the world today, one who wants to experience sex at its full potential, who desires to make love in such a way that it opens the door to the greatest joy for his loved one and himself, and fulfils his deepest yearnings. This new, aware man realises the importance of learning about love, sex and relationship. He is strongly conscious of the centrality of these matters in his life, and he wants to learn all there is about lovemaking. Yet there is very little good education available on how to become a good lover. And contrary to what the ego would have us men believe, we are not born naturally good at lovemaking. I am not talking about intercourse. Anyone can do that. I'm talking about learning how to make love so that you can nourish a woman on every level of her being - body, heart and soul; so that she not only experiences levels of physical pleasure beyond anything she has ever experienced before, but also has a deep feeling of love in her heart and experiences an ecstasy that transcends her sense of time, space and thought.

The secrets in this book will give you the knowledge, skills and practices to be able to achieve that with your partner - to be an extraordinary lover. Every woman wants her man to know these secrets. Once you nourish a woman on this level, your relationship will reach new depths of love and new heights of ecstasy. The benefits of knowing these secrets are not only that you nourish your partner's sexuality better than any other man can, but that you learn how to access higher states of pleasure yourself.

Tantric Secrets for Men
What Every Woman Will Want Her Man to Know about Enhancing Sexual Ecstasy

Acknowledgments

Preface

1--Lovemaking as a Spiritual Experience
2--Learning to Understand Women and Their Needs
3--Heartfelt Loving
4--Secrets for a Healthy Relationship
5--Making Love as Long as You Choose
6--Beyond Normal Orgasm for Men
7--Practices to Use During Intercourse
8--Satisfying a Woman on Every Level
9--Shakti Power--The Female Force
10--Jewel Honoring and the G-Spot
11--Advanced Practices for Longer, Deeper Orgasms
12--It's Her Night

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Bibliography

Index

Kerry and Diane Riley teach courses on personal empowerment, sex, love, and relationships. Their work combines contemporary sex therapy with the great traditions of ecstatic sexuality. They have contributed to many video programs, including Tantric Lovemaking Secrets and Practices, and are co-creators of the video The Secrets of Sacred Sex (over 200,000 copies sold). They live with their children in Whale Beach, Australia.

"Calling on personal experience and the experiences of their students, Kerry and Diane Riley bring a refreshing, down-to-earth approach and a wealth of practical wisdom to contemporary tantra, based on a lifetime of love. Tantric Secrets for Men deserves to be read by men everywhere and by the women who love them, and will love them even more after they read this book!"

David Ramsdale, author of Sexual Energy Ecstasy

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“Calling on personal experience and the experiences of their students, Kerry and Diane Riley bring a refreshing, down-to-earth approach and a wealth of practical wisdom to contemporary tantra, based on a lifetime of love. Tantric Secrets for Men deserves to be read by men everywhere--and by the women who love them, and will love them even more after they read this book!”
--David Ramsdale, author of Sexual Energy Ecstasy

Being a good lover isn’t easy. With more freedom, knowledge, and body awareness, today’s woman knows better than to settle for predictable, performance based sex. Tantric Secrets for Men provides everything a man needs to know to satisfy a woman’s physical, emotional, and spiritual yearnings in a sexual relationship--and how to bring himself to new heights of ecstasy in the process.

Employing ancient tantric secrets, Kerry and Diane Riley show how to transform sex into passionate lovemaking, pleasure into ecstasy, and partnership into union. Their expert teachings represent a committed couple practicing ecstatic sexuality within the challenges of a modern-day lifestyle. The authors provide couples with practical techniques for making love more frequently, achieving higher and prolonged states of orgasmic intensity, and experiencing lovemaking as a sacred practice. Through their approach, couples will find new ways to satisfy each other on the levels of body, heart, and soul to keep their love and sexual passion alive.

KERRY AND DIANE RILEY are co-creators of the bestselling video The Secrets of Sacred Sex (over 200,000 copies sold). They teach courses worldwide on personal empowerment, sex, love, and relationships, combining contemporary sex therapy with the great traditions of ecstatic sexuality. Kerry and Diane Riley live with their children in Whale Beach, Australia.